How Do You Know If Your Long Distance Partner is Worth It?

Define worth it?

What is considered "worth it" for one person may not be to another. So what exactly is worth it? In this case, what is considered "worth it" refers to the long distance relationship and everything that goes with it. It does not just involve the two person in the relationship but also their friends, family, co-workers and everybody that regularly mingle with. Most of them is probably thinking what a waste of time a long distance relationship is. But actually, deciding on a long distance relationship is deciding on different way of life. It may not be ideal but for those of us that are in it, it obviously has to be worth it to go through all the trouble.

What are your long term goals?

What are your long term goals for your relationship? Where do you think is the relationship going within the next few years? If you see a slightest hope of a happy future with it, then the relationship isn't a waste of time, you guys will find a way to make distance seem to be nonexistent, none at all. Do you see yourself getting married to this person eventually? Or should you choose not to believe in marriage, do you see this person as your life partner, with whom you want to settle down and raise a family?

If you answered yes to that question, then you have your answer. This person is your life partner, and you would be silly to let this relationship die. What if I'm uncertain or answered no?

Should we break up?

What if your answer was a clear and definite NO? What if your answer was that you're uncertain, or maybe your answer was an unconvincing no. Then the next question would be: Why are you not convinced of your relationship with this person? Whatever made you stick too long in this relationship anyway? Do you have trust issues? Do you feel unsure about your feelings towards the person at the other end of the relationship? Perhaps you don't have problems like that, but certainly are worried about your relationship as a whole.

If you're ever in doubt, have your tried asking yourself why you are in doubt. You probably have the answers but you refuse to see, to hear and comprehend whatever it is for it might equate to loss and pain. Maybe your partner has broken your trust in the past. Or maybe, just maybe, the problems are simply all in your mind and that your doubts may just be unfounded.

However, never underestimate the power of suggestion. Every day, we are bombarded by images and stories of unfaithful people in movies, on TV and in magazines. Deep down, we may know it's not really like that, but unfortunately, our logical thoughts can easily get overwhelmed.

Try posting a question about long distance relationships on any open forum. Surely, half the people will tell you it can never work. Still, when you hear that negative message, there is some part of you that can easily throw logical reasoning out of the window and take the distorted opinion of someone else as fact.

So what should you actually do when you're uncertain, or if you answered no? I think the fact that you are in a relationship with this person, only goes to show that there must be something about him or her that attracted you in the first place. And the fact that you're in a long distance relationship, probably one of the most difficult things a relationship can be in, shows me even more that you have something that you feel is worth preserving.

First take a critical look at your own situation, and then you can get to the question you wanted to ask all along: Should we break up?

A wise decision would be"Don't break up - yet"