Mumbling...Thinking

For so long, I have been quite concerned about comparing my life with others, especially with those whom I attended school with. It gives me much concern that I might be really falling behind. You see I didn’t finish college in my “ideal” and “planned” setting. ‘Got knocked up but learned a lot. Admittedly, there are sacrifices that come as a default for young unwed mothers like me, like being slow in chasing a career. Like being unsure if this career or job would be enough to feed me and my baby, or is the job cool enough to feed my ego, which is pretty much on the sensitive side given that I felt I really missed a lot and have to make up for all of that---but I can’t.

Suddenly, as I was sweating out my first articles at work, which I did in lightning speed, I realized that this is something that I am good at. It may not be the coolest job but it is a job that I do well. It is a job that I feel really comfortable doing because it is the job that keeps me sane. Although people may disagree that this is the smartest choice of career for me, maybe I am just not who they think I am because I am happy and settled at what I do, which is actually great. So I've got to pull myself together and start smiling. I'm spending so much time worrying and being unhappy about things that should not matter. I'm getting allergies already, which according to WebMd, is a sign of stress.So wake up nutty head! Go back to work!

Can't Please Everybody

Ever heard of the line "you can't please everybody"? It's actually true. Whether it is with your family, friends or co-workers, people's differences usually come in the way of "getting along" or simple "understanding" of the opinion, actions or shortcoming of others.

 Regardless of our religion, our faith in our God tells us to "have faith in other people", but some look upon themselves as the "standard" of personalities and with that, they project a relatively high expectation on others - on how they should act, on how they should have handled situations and many other conditions. This state often cultivates a thought that "they should have done this and that...if they weren't stupid...because I would have...I would have thought of that". Often, this state drives people to prejudices, which cause them to think ill of the intentions and character of others, instead of entertaining a more positive stand on the actions of other people.

 Sometimes, people do nonsensical things for no reason. Even when they are blithely aware of the consequences or hurt they may cause, there are reasons for their actions, no matter how stupid we thought those are. I personally believe that the things done served what they thought was best. People make mistakes and lucky are those who don't mess up as often as others. Sometimes, we just need to be thankful for not being in the situation of causing hurt or difficulties in others. I guess we just need to keep an open heart and an open mind to continue having faith in others, because no matter how we think that we are good and deserving or that we should have been treated better, we live the world with few other million people who may not agree with us and we have to respect that. Because that way, you get the respect and treatment that you thought you deserve. Respects - respects. Truly, people are different from one another. They have their own convictions, which with age, becomes more difficult to sway or even convince otherwise.

I guess some people should stop beating themselves up, thinking ill of other people. Just imagine the stress and the despair they put themselves in. Life is short and the world is small. You can do whatever with your life, but remember that you are living your life with few other people whom you need to treat well - to also be treated well.

All About CLASS

Class has a sense of humor. It knows that a good laugh is the best lubricant for oiling the machinery of human relations. Class never makes excuses. It takes its lumps and learns from past mistakes. Class bespeaks an aristocracy unrelated to ancestors or money. Some extremely wealthy people have no class at all, while others who are struggling to make ends meet are loaded with it. Class is real. You can't fake it. Class never tries to build itself up by tearing others down. Class is already up and need not attempt to look better by making others look worse. Everyone is comfortable with the person who has class because he is comfortable with himself. If you have class, you've got it made. If you don't have class, no matter what else you have, it won't make up for it. 


                                                                                    -- Ann Landers

I don't Believe in Evolution

If evolution was true:


Mothers would have more than two hands. 


Fathers should be dapper


MOST males would have more "members".


as MOST females would have steel hearts...

Young?

" ... when you are young, you do stupid things ... you do things that you should not do... "

--- Barrack Obama

So the thing here is:

when you happened to do stupid things
and when you do things that you should not do
Does that mean you are YOUNG?
Does that mean that you are still YOUNG?

is this a valid argument?
fallacy perhaps!

A Repost

"NEVER TAKE FOR GRANTED A PERSON WHO IS CLOSE TO YOUR HEART AND DOES EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY BECAUSE YOU MIGHT WAKE UP ONE DAY AND REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE LOST A "DIAMOND" WHILE YOU WERE TOO BUSY COLLECTING STONES."

---ANONYMOUS

My Thoughts

Better hurt and bleed than not breathe at all. Better suffer pain than being raped with fears. Better choke on tears than choke on restrictions. Better have a broken heart than have no heart at all. Better be guilty of something than to die ignorant because of cowardice. Better lick honey for one minute than hope for other people to settle your life. I have come to believe that there is no justice in this world, nothing is there to avenge us and to protect us, even in the last corner of our life, unless we take care of that business ourselves.

Words to Quote

“Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like.”
- Will Smith

“Imagination is a quality given a man to compensate him for what he is not, and a sense of humour was provided to console him for what he is.”
- Oscar Wilde

“I love waking up in the morning not knowing where I'm gonna go or who I'm gonna meet. Just the other night I was sleeping under a bridge, and now here I am, on the grandest ship in the world, having champagne with you fine people.”
- Jack (Titanic)

“The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.”
- Anonymous

Becoming the Big Sister

Hello guys...I am sorry I have not much interesting things to say lately. However, let me share something that I have realized today. Perhaps being the eldest in my 'academic' family has its advantages. You see, I realized that more and more of my classmates are seeking my help or asking for my opinion on a variety of topics. Since the end of the semester is two weeks from now, we are all bombarded with a lot of paper work (research paper, reaction papers and more papers). This afternoon, I got the the biggest surprise when a classmate of mine asked me for some advise on a very personal and very sensitive matter. Being a little 'bit' older than my classmates, I became used to the everyday questions thrown at me but never was I flattered until that question that kind of question was thrown at me. That made me realize that I am quite of an importance to some people. From the way they look to the assignments on certain subjects, I never realized that my opinion mattered to the people who are closely becoming the constant figures of my everyday life. No matter how I avoid getting into friendships with my 'new' friends, I can't help myself but be drawn to their immaturity because I see myself in them through my awkward, confused and emotionally struggling years. I felt very much of value of a Big Sister- respected and listened to even though I am not sure if what I am saying is absolutely right. On the outside, I may be seen as a very emotionally stable person but I also have my own personal struggles. I just can't think of a thing for them to give their trust to my words or to whatever my opinion would be while I am in constant battle with my low self-esteem.

during the past years, my experiences made me an entirely different person. With everything that I have gone through, I kind of repressed all of my bad memories as my way to survive. I even forgot when was the last time I ever cried real tears. It seems that I have lost feelings for my pains. So I realized, maybe that is what turned myself into stone. Honestly, as long as my family, especially NJ, is by my side, I can't be shattered. I just turned into a stone, lacking personal emotion. Perhaps that may be because I am real tired, physically and emotionally. I have exhausted decades-worth of emotions, pain and sufferings in just few years and so I am left with nothing today. Perhaps having the constant ability to talk as an outsider and an observer made my words that believable for some people-matter-of-factly words rather than emotion-based words...maybe that's the answer...or maybe NOT.